The Little Shepherd

I really felt I have the charisma that people have no qualms opening up to me and even reveal their dark secrets. I felt honoured though there were also exception to the rule. There are still some when not asked, will not tell you that they are committing sins that are unacceptable especially to the community I belong to. Although we don't expel members but we firmly stand that co-habitation is a big no no. Simply because it is a big temptation to commit pre-marital sex and also to promote pure love. In our community, men are taught to be knights who would protect their ladies. And this only mean to protect their name, their dignity, not only on the physical aspect. Ladies meanwhile were taught that we are meant to be pursued. Both are encouraged to remain pure until receiving the Sacrament of Matrimony. I know that the world dictates otherwise. That's why it is not surprising that a lot of young members are into this. My previous household had also this dilemma but we were blessed because after some time they were married. I remember there also came a time when they came to us and asked for advise because they have financial difficulties since living expenses here in SG is high and it is an option for them to live in same room. I seek an advise from a religious and therefore gave a sound advise to them. That is to add one more person in their room so that temptation will be lessen. They are now transitioning in CFC and I'm just a proud spiritual mom. Anyway, my current household have the same dilemma too. Though I don't normally ask after CLP if they still do pre-marital sex or living in, there were just circumstances that their secrets were just coming out. As usual they are hard-headed and have so many reasons why they are doing it. What really blew my mind was when they told me that another household head told them that it was okay to co-habitate since everybody in SFC is doing it and he even have a girl in his room. I want to strangle his neck that very moment! I'm in the verge of leaving the community since it has given me an impression that they are not living the teachings of the church any more if even the new heads have these kind of mindset. I just knew in my heart that wherever I go, I will grow in faith and love with the Lord. I still have small faith that somehow they will instil in my members an introduction about the Great God we know. Prayers do work in wonder. My Unit Head talked to me about it and surprised to hear what my member reported about the household head who have made such remarks. She reassure me that we are still align and that pre-marital/co-habitation is still a big no no. The household head will now be investigated and will undergo pastoral correction. We don't judge people but we don't tolerate either. If there are some weeds in the plantation, isn't it best to remove it so that there will be growth. I told my household we are all sinners but we despise sinning. As much as possible we should strive not to commit them as our response to the great love God has been giving us through the years. I really don't know if I'm called in pastoral service since my heart is heavy listening to their decisions. I guess I really need a helping hand from the saints and rest in the God's bosom. I cried a lot how these people would turn their back from God. But what can I do. Even God don't force them to love Him.