Honour Thy Father and Mother

I thought back then that honouring my father and mother includes complete obedience to whatever they wishes and disregarding my own opinions. Unlike my siblings, I didn't grew up with them. That's why I tried hard to have a connection with them. Or perhaps due to the wrong notion that I have to completely obey them  that most of my adolescent years I just chose to follow. My spiritual adviser thinks I have abandonment syndrome. Though I told her many times I am convinced the reason I have to be with my grandparents was because of my parents were working hard for our family. Don't get me wrong. They just want for me to have the best and I'm grateful for what they did. But I felt I don't have the voice and that I cannot run my own life. Although we only have connection when I was already a young adult. I have harbored a lot of resentments on them running my life and making major decisions  that I guess was one of the reasons I have depression.When I finally understood that honouring them is not just giving them all the right in my life then came another issue. That is, how to respond to them without disrespecting. It's been my struggle for several years now which I continually pray that I have the courage to tell what inside me and also to remind them that I have my own life to live. I understand that they simply love their children that sometimes they overdo and forget that we are already adult. My father particularly told me that they didn't let us experience in our early lives the difficulties that they are hurting now since they cannot shield us from the pains of life itself. Nevertheless I chose to forgive and still honor them as my parents. I'm not blinded by hatred but also saw how much they care even by just small things they do. In the end we can still live in harmony even with opposite principles and  views because we have love to bind us together.